“... I have no moral objection to “targeting” the civilians with psy-ops. If you can help them decide to give up, so much the better.”
It’s a conceit that there can be noncombatants. Hasn’t been true since 1600 or so. Maybe earlier.
If you have qualms about the morality of killing the enemy, I can only conclude that you are incapable of judging the situation properly.
Moral arguments aside, most of you have gotten the sequence of events wrong anyway:
First, win the war.
Second, fuss about morality.
If Step One is not accomplished, all talk of morality stops.
You apparently think you have no Judge to face, when this brief life is over.