[Nepeta]

My biological father had a personality change when I was 10 years old. Up until then, I had been "Daddy's Girl", and received much attention from him. After his coronary, he became someone else, morose, gloomy, distant, and cold. Perhaps it was the medications. I don't know.

Some weeks he did not speak 50 words to me, and when he did, they were not what an adolescent girl wants to hear from her father. I avoided him.

I could never do anything that pleased him, which is too bad, because I was a good kid, with good grades, good friends, and I never gave my parents a moment of agony over drugs or bad behavior. My father never told me he loved me or that he was proud of me.

This silly woman who blathers on about not having her "father" has no idea what she is talking about. I was lucky--I found a fine, good man who was much like a father to me when I was young, and he has had a positive effect on the rest of my life.

Most people don't realize when they have it good.

[autumnraine]

I have had SO MANY people say that their loved ones went through a personality change after surgery from coronary problems. I remember my boss saying she felt like ‘they cut his heart out’ when he had bypass surgery.