Not with shallow, stupid women you don't. They confuse rudeness and meanness with masculinity and are attracted to it.
They also confuse politeness with weakness. As do quite a few men, who have abruptly discovered their error when the "nice, polite" man suddenly knocks them cold or kills them dead.
Been there. Had more than one person try that hypothesis out. So far I’m 2/2 for assault convictions without significant injury on my part.
One dude went so far as to jump out of his car and sucker punch me. On camera. 2 minutes from the police station.
I did get a nice ride with a cute lady cop after. :D She thought it was hilarious that the tiny dude just took the punch. :)