The dog has a second cage or sleeping area in the kitchen or near the kitchen so he can see you making food. As long as you have cages in these two spots you will be OK.
Remember your husband (if he is bigger than you) is the alpha dog. It does not matter who takes care of the dog, who feeds him, or spends time with him, he is the Alpha. The dog assumes the largest creature is alpha.
You are the alpha bitch. Outside of bad marketing, the alpha bitch is like the COO of the pack. The dog is subservient to the alpha bitch until the alpha shows up.
You may not like this. But this is the way dogs are. And you and the dog will be happy as long as you understand the laws of the pack.
Remember as alpha bitch you never cede control to your dog. You are in charge. Acts of kindness are often misunderstood as acts of weakness. Be sure and be strong.
I have always found that it is helpful for the Alpha bitch to lower her voice (imitating a man) when giving commands to the dog. Try “Sit”, “Stay” in a false baritone!