Nailed it! Better not to get divorced especially in blue states like California. You’ll be paying child support until they are 26. Go online and search engine “child support horror stories.” Feeling lonely will be a TREAT in comparison. Also search engine “golden uterus syndrome/complex”
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2012/02/14/the-golden-uterus-syndrome/
And I’m a divorced woman from the eighties who received no child support but didn’t trash dad at the same time. Have always been the breadwinner... even now I am because I am with a man who has to pay child support (half his low five figure income) for ten years and another at least 11 years to go. We don’t eat out, we heat with wood, we drive beaters, we do all our own home repair, we NEVER go on vacation, etc. you get the picture. His ex wife has remarried, lives high off the hog and has alienated all three children—hubby hasn’t seen them in almost four years now. No money to fight it in court. And sometimes he blames me for it all.
DON’T.GET.DIVORCED!