Apparently she has missed an important lesson - never, every apologize to race baiters.
You should never try to apologize to people who try to guilt you. Back around 1978 I ‘d purchased Pontiac Grand Prix and went to visit some relatives. One of them tried the guilt trick by saying, “wasn’t that extravagant?” I replied, “No, I earned the money, I could afford it, I wanted it, and I bought it.” Never heard and more of that BS.