[JCBreckenridge]

I just don’t think the article is very helpful. Sorry.

It talks about how the wife has needs and how the wife can get her ‘needs’ (I’m sure she can!) by going to a support group.

That’s the only actual advice proferred. No discussion on, “what could her husband actually want”.

[workerbee]

It talks about how the wife has needs and how the wife can get her ‘needs’ (I’m sure she can!) by going to a support group. hat’s the only actual advice proferred. No discussion on, “what could her husband actually want”.

The husband DID NOT seek advice, she did.

I know someone who was married, quite young, to a guy who turned out to be abusive, both verbally demeaning and physically aggressive. A few times he pushed her out of bed and told her to sleep on the floor at his feet -- while she was pregnant. Being very true to her church, she sought advice from her pastor. He told her that marriage was sacred and she needed to do what she could to "understand" and "change" her husband. In other words -- "what could her husband actually want".

Is this the type of good Christian advice you're talking about?

[Resettozero]

I just don’t think the article is very helpful. Sorry.

You've said that several times. But why do you think it is not helpful for other FReepers? You've not convinced me that you read more that just the beginning and the end of the article. I really do think you missed the gist of the article.

[dinoparty]

What does the man want? How about this: the sight of a flawless, younger airbrushed body and a perfect make-up job, instead of a woman his age whose flaws are well known to him? NOT a justification by any stretch, but an answer to your question that is much more sensible than your psychobabble...