“Because porn is easy.”
And asking his wife for sex is hard?
Yes, but it doesn’t fill. It doesn’t give the man what he’s really looking for. Absent actually meeting what his desires are - he’s taking what he can get.
“Because porn requires no effort on his part.”
I don’t really think it’s about effort. Are his efforts being rewarded?
“Because porn is totally selfish.”
Well sure, wanting sex is selfish, and turning down sex is not.
“Because porn is a sin, and we tend to enjoy sinning.”
Sin meets a need. Just saying, ‘It’s a sin’, doesn’t attempt to get at the why.
“Because he has developed a mental/physical habit that is extremely tough to break.”
Ok, this I buy. He’s been accustomed to meeting and satisfying his sexual desires in this form, and it’s hard for him to break the habit.
So how can a wife help with this aside from, “finding a support group?”
“Because porn women are not real, never have a problem, never have a need, don’t have to be sacrificed for, and exist just to please him. He can tailor them perfectly to his perceived desires of the moment. Wives are not capable, not for a minute, of this type of perfection.”
No, actually, he can’t ‘tailor them to his perceived desires’. He’s not getting his desires - it’s substitute for them.
Why is he preferring not having sex with his wife to having sex with his wife?
“Sin meets a need. Just saying, ‘It’s a sin’, doesn’t attempt to get at the why.”
Well, you are questioning the word of God, here. I can’t help you.
I don’t deny that a wife who refuses to do it is sinning, also.
But I don’t assume that married men who use porn are all getting shut down in the bedroom. I can’t prove it, but anecdotally, this is not usually the case.