Been there, Done that, Moved to save the marriage, worked for awhile then...
Seriously, set limits by example, for instance even with my own parents, I always call a day or so ahead of time before visiting. It’s polite, it tells them that you care about their privacy and if there is a scheduling conflict other plans can be made.
The Working Man ~:” Been there, Done that, Moved to save the marriage, worked for awhile then... “
Been there , done that too ! “ worked for awhile then... “
Same thing !
There are just some parents ( not all are adults) that are called :”Drama Queens”
Set realistic bounderies , ..and realistic consequences
The Kids are NOT in the middle , and will hear nothing negative about either parent.
All visitation is supervised by one or another parent; notification by parent as soon after the offense as possible
1st offense 2 days - no visit
2nd offense 1 week - no visit
3rd offense 1 month - no visit
4th offense 6 month - no visit , etc., etc..
You have to acknowledge that some people aren’t happy until they “control the situation”, start rumors ,’high school crap’, etc.
The Drama Queens aren’t happy unless they are the center of attention : avoid all attention in front of the kids
Good Luck !!
One month ... long ago , I lost #175 pounds .. - she divorced me for her mother !
.. and the mother already had my replacement in mind
and then she married him.
And now , as she controls his life , and drives his car down the road with him in the passenger seat ,
.. we are all friends ,
and I am lighter in the wallet for it,
.. but happier for it !! You see ,.. he deserves her !!