I personally know women like this.
They have a child....in some cases, several children.
Often living with a boyfriend, and may in fact co-own the house with him.
But they are not married. And to me more shockingly, they express the desire to never GET married.
If you ask why you typically hear something like “well, my mom got divorced, and that was very painful for her. So I won’t marry because I never want to go through a divorce.”
AAAAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Did I forget selfish also?
I’ve heard that, as well. I’ve tried to explain that marriage gives you legal protections like inheritance rights, court backed division of shared property and alimony, something living together does not.
And breaking up with the baby daddy moving out hurts just as much emotionally as a divorce, but you have fewer rights when it happens without the legal protection of marriage.
I’ve also heard the WTF statement from more than one girl that she won’t marry because the he has a guaranteed right to visit the kid afterward. If he’s gone, she wants him totally gone - and divorced Dads have more legal rights to enforce visitation and get custody than “baby daddy who moved out and might not be the dad”.