[Fred Nerks]

Ah...well I remember when it was that I first realized I was a female, and my mother sent a note to the teacher (I opened the sealed envelope and read it) telling the teacher that from now on, there will be certain days of the month during which my daughter won't be able to participate in sports and was mortified...and disgusted, but I couldn't NOT hand the note to the teacher, could I? My mother had eyes in the sky, she would have found out. So there I was, expected to become incapacitated regularly, which meant I had to hide that natural function from her as much as possible, or she would stop me from riding my horse...

THAT'S when it struck me, I would have been better off if I were a boy! So any misgivings I had about being female stemmed from my mother's actions, not from anything I felt...as a result, I am inclined to blame the parent when a child has a gender issue. Maybe she wanted a boy? I was certainly more comfortable with being a girl, than she was.

My suggestion would be, if you have a child with a gender problem, investigate the parents.

[little jeremiah]

That is exactly correct. I’ve seen many articles about tiny children deciding (supposedly) that they are the opposite sex. When reading the entire articles, usually one finds that Grandma always dressed Timmy or Johnny in evening gowns and makeup, or Mom and Dad always gave Susie boy’s type toys and sports stuff and pushed her away from anything “feminine” or girly; or the “parents” are two men or two women.

[little jeremiah]

What to speak of being a boy having advantages, I used to think if I had been born black, I wouldn’t get the horrible sunburns I always got, and I could wear my hair very short and it would just curl up naturally.

Such is life - we get what we get and that’s it (for this lifetime anyway). Always a mixed bag.