The most important rule is to never let a bass player or
a drummer have any say in the band especially the song list.
That’s the surest way to lose a solid foundation - to ignore the bottom...
My nickel as a bass player anyhow.
I’ve been in several bands like this and they’ve all driven me away. Funny thing is... people keep asking me to come back and play music with them after they drive me away like that.
As a player I try not to ask for too much; just that the band members put effort into the music, that the selection not be mind numbingly boring, that there’s some semblance of variety, plus some musicianship being involved in the selections sure goes a long way towards overall enjoyment of any given band situation.