Sam you make some good points. I think the problem is that many “men” out there today in their 20’s had the distinct disadvantage of being raised by single moms. No father figure to provide an example. Not that this can’t be overcome, but it is a big deal.
You’re right about having a plan. I can’t stand seeing adult “men” playing videogames all day. Same can be said though about following sports too much. You need to have a purpose. Women will be attracted to that.
To me it was the military. As an officer at age 21 I had more responsibility than most men have their entire life. Unfortunately, many men don’t want to join the military these days. My poor brother (divorced, wife cheated on him after 17 years of marriage)has three sons that are liberal Obama-voting pukes. Look down at the military with disdain. It frustrates my brother as he was a captain in the USMC. His oldest is a sophomore at Georgetown and will have to take at least a year off school because they can’t afford it. $54,000/year. This kid will not consider ROTC. At all.
Long story, but the point is valid. Many young men aren’t go-getters anymore. You can’t wait for stuff to be handed to you you have to take it. I left home at 18 and never looked back. Military College then active duty.
Now I’m married with 3 sons of my own and instill pride in them daily. My wife hears how lucky she is all the time from her dissatisfied friends. But you’re right. Bust your ass and the women will notice. You’ll have your pick and hopefully will make the right decision. Sit on your ass in your parent’s basement and you’ll get what you deserve too. And shame on those parents for not kicking their boys out.
I’m the lucky one. Got a wonderful wife. She’s an engineer and makes twice what I do. Same go-getter mentality, but we both understand that raising our kids in a loving mutually supportive house is most important.
I’ll do my part to raise my boys properly. Hopefully they can find beautiful conservative women.
But when I recommend military service to some family members who are shiftless and having trouble getting started in life, their mothers recoil at me in horror for even suggesting it. Despite the success I have obtained as a result of military service (I have far outdistanced the rest of my family in terms of career and wealth), the mothers will not hear of their "little Johnny" going into the big, bad military. During all this, the fathers, if they are around, remain silent.
This is a classic situation where we need the strong father figure to assert himself. When I signed up for the Marines, my mother would have no part of it. She went to her room and cried for days. But my father stepped in and said that the military was the best thing for me and supported me 100%. Eventually my mother had to give in and sign the papers (I was still only 17).
Of course, my mother eventually became proud of what I later achieved but it would not have happened without my father.