I’ve been thinking about this for the last 12 hours or so. In my family, no one got divorced, but I did have a cousin who called off the engagement. Everyone stayed together, I had great aunts and uncles who were together for 60 plus years until death parted them.
I figured I’d have that kind of marriage too, maybe not 60 years, since most of the women in the family go on for advanced degrees- but still - married by 30, would give you an estimated 30-40 plus years which isn’t bad.
I always got “you’re too nice”. “you’re too smart”, “you’re the type of girl I would bring home to mom and I just want to play the field right now”. I never had problem finding dates- it was getting a second or third date. I never put out- maybe that was a problem.
When I finally met someone I found out he stayed with me because I was making a lot more than he was and he liked that, he liked the fact that my job took me traveling to Europe several times a year and he could piggy back along. A year or so into the marriage my kidneys failed and he couldn’t deal with the fact I was sick, I was unable to work and he had to play nursemaid. (Didn’t the vows say in sickness and health?). He left big time, and I had the marriage annulled.
The hopeless romantic in me hopes I will find someone but I’ve taken myself off the market for good. I would rather have a friend(s) I don’t care if it’s male or female. Because of the health issues I am pretty much house bound but maybe someday I can get back there and do things again and meet people in the real world. If I meet a guy, that would be fine, but I’ll never marry again. The only requirements, he must have a kind heart, and he must like/hell, he must love cats.
My grandmother told me when I was 12 there was a lid for every pot. She and grandpa were so very happy. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me that people up until say, the 60s or 70s had it easier in the love department than today. Maybe because times were simpler.
I envy them.
Thank you for this thread.
You’re welcome. I’m sorry about your health problems.
“My grandmother told me when I was 12 there was a lid for every pot. She and grandpa were so very happy. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems to me that people up until say, the 60s or 70s had it easier in the love department than today. Maybe because times were simpler.
I envy them.”
JMHO but I think folks had more realistic expectations about what life is and was back then. Hence, most husbands and wives stayed together and I think they were more content. Sadly, so many youngsters today have an unrealistic expectation of what life promises from their teachers and from popular entertainment, it’s very hard for them to realize until too late that life is not a Disney movie.