>> My father was inconsiderate enough to die at age 31 so my brother and I were raised fatherless.
You and I both know we’re talking about sperm donors, not fathers who were a part of the family and died prematurely. I’ll bet even though he passed on way, way too early, you know more about him than a lot of kids from intact families know about their fathers. To wit:
1/ My wife’s dad died of cancer when she was 15. Mom never remarried - her dad - a ham radio operator, workshop craftsman, and brilliant electrical engineer affected who she married - me - and what she is interested in (she retired this year as a B-747 captain, and is an extra class ham).
2/ My son was dating a gal for a time who lost her Army test pilot dad in an aircraft accident before she was born. She knows everything about her dad - what flew, who his buddies were, what he liked to eat and drink, his hobbies, work habits, etc.
3/ My nephew lost his dad (my brother) at age 9. Same deal. He is convinced that his dad has repeatedly visited him in dreams when he needed advise. My brother must be saying the right stuff - the kid is a senior VP of a bank - making megabucks, and has a wonderful wife and 2 kids.
That’s a hell of a lot different from some welfare baby cannon sow who has spit out 5 kids from 4 different sperm donors.
“you know more about him than a lot of kids from intact families know about their fathers.”
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Thanks for that. I was 5 when my father died. I am now 80.
I have their wedding pic framed in my living room,a framed picture they had taken on their honeymoon,many snapshots,his baseball team picture,a funny poem he wrote to his mother,a postcard he wrote to me from the sanatarium(he had tuberculosis),and his death notice.
You’re right,I do know a lot about him.
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