Degrees have nothing to do with it. It’s not about intelligence its about over stating your point in contacting him in the first place.
It was too long. I didn’t read it all myself. And I have a degree too. Overall the tone was respectful but I seriously doubt he read it all.
I said you were being two faced because in your email to him you sound genuine and sincere about keeping family together and then a post to someone......laughing about using your own child to get to him and grandma. Be honest.
I would think of it more as a “carrot and stick” than two-faced. I’m willing to engage in a police, constructive dialogue about the differences in our opinion, but if he wants to ignore all of that in favor of his own closed-minded opinions, then we can be at war, and I have a nuclear weapon, he’s got mortar rounds.