There’s no reasoning with an authoritarian statist Philistine who believes in conformity.
Orchestras are not run like football teams or the army.
A certain amount of individual flamboyance is not only allowed, but encouraged.
Check out the wardrobe of Jacques-Yves Thibaudet sometime.
I remember reading about an orchestra that was sued for discrimination.
HOWEVER it failed when it was pointed out the auditions were behind a visually opaque but sound transparent screen so those interviewing could ONLY judge based on sound alone. There was no way to have any appearance or look come into the judgment.
This thread seems to point out how some people are just would up a bit too tight.
Not when you're 5th deck 2nd violin it's not.
This girl needs to understand that society doesn't revolve around her (or more importantly, her mother).