My former boss is a sociopath. I’m grateful that I had the choice to leave — You only get one shot at this life. Unless you feel called to make a difference there, it’s better to look ahead to what’s next in life. My relationship with my boss was ridiculous. He is power-hungry, manipulative and narcissistic. Trying to communicate with him was wasted effort.
Instead of a pocket recorder, I made sure I had my iPhone with me whenever I met with him. I used the voice memo app to record every conversation. He lied so often, I wanted to make sure I had proof for my own protection if I ever needed it. Thank God I didn’t.
Most people don’t leave jobs, they leave bosses. Ask God for protection and guidance. He will lead...He always does.
Also, sounds like the lines of communication are very poor and counterproductive. He should not be implying anything- he should be direct with you. This is not the hallmark of a good leader. Were I you, I'd take it upon myself to become the foremost expert/authority in the office on the next proposal, and be more assertive, even instant in the next meeting about your goals. Calmly and with due deference, of course. He may not adopt your proposal but he will respect you.
Your inclination to seek a better work environment is a good move, and be sure to interview your potential bosses as carefully as they do you.
I wouldn't be discouraged about your career phase, but I'm not in your field. Alternatively, could anything positive come from another mindset? Finding a new, better job is infinitely easier than starting your own business at this stage. I expect an uptick in the economy as soon as the 1st qtr of 2013 if Ryan-Romney is elected. Hang in there, don't burn bridges, and good luck.
Document everything that happens when it happens. E-mail it to a special e-mail account so everything is time and date stamped.
Be sure to print out any e-mails from him to you and from you to him and take them home. Keep a file.
When you have five or six incidents contact HR, please note HR is not on your side, you are just setting up your case. Do not let them know about the account. Do not let them know about your file. Never ever give them your only copy of anything. Never give them an original.
Contact HR twice after that if the situation does not improve inside a week or gets worse.
Move up the ladder. If you have an employee help line use that. If not go to up to the next level.
They will know what you are doing. This is not a bad thing. This allows you to apply pressure without appearing to apply pressure.
During this time try to avoid talking to your boss face to face. Use E-mail or voice mail. Do not talk to your boss alone.
Be polite. Be polite until your teeth ache. Do not try to be friendly. Do not try to mend fences. Do NOT apologize. Just be polite.
This will not fix the situation but it might keep you from getting fired.
I’ve read this entire thread carefully.
Of all the replies, I would give HTB’s post #71 most careful consideration. whoever he is, he’s certainly not a harmless teddy bear, he’s loaded for bear! That’s something you need right now. Even if you never need to use all that stuff, just having it will give you much more confidence and piece of mind.
Also, just a few posts up is a suggestion from me regarding prayer, consider that at the same time.
The best to you!
Hard to help without knowing what you do and what you are asking for.
Generally, I would ignore the personal part of this and concentrate on doing the best job you can. People often confuse the work place with a socisl club. Don’t make that mistake.