In all fairness, a distinction should be made between how a woman loses her hymen and her virginity.
In primitive cultures, though naturally about a quarter of women do not significantly bleed when their hymen is torn, many women have been beaten or killed because of it. Likewise when girls are athletic and do stretching or gymnastics, they often lose their hymen without sex.
And today, because of better nutrition, many women have a hymen that cannot be torn by sex, and for her safety and to prevent a dangerous infection, it needs to be surgically torn.
So it is best to think of the hymen in terms of an extra measure to reduce infection for girls, that has little or no bearing in the retention or loss of virginity.
As far as that goes, I am a strong believer in the southern American custom called “necking”. It was an unusually effective means of determining compatibility beyond any doubt. It involved a “slightly chaperoned” situation of a couple sitting on a comfortable couch or sofa and kissing, just kissing, for an hour. Nothing more.
It was discovered that if two people are not compatible, kissing more than 10 minutes is just painfully uncomfortable. They no longer want to kiss or even touch, and there is mutual certainty that they do not want to get married.
But if they could kiss for an hour and still like each other, it was very likely that they could get married and remain married. Because kissing is so intimate, they would be pretty certain that sex would be good, even before they had it.
So the loss of virginity on the wedding night would be far less uncomfortable or embarrassing, and remembered as a pleasant and romantic encounter.
I recall a Medieval story about an Italian widow and her daughter.
She maintained a strict and chaste household to ensure that her reputation, and the reputation of her daughter was unassailable. And when the time came for her daughter to marry - she made her a good match to a handsome and wealthy young man.
After the wedding and the wedding night it was customary for the groom to prepare the house for his new bride and then to take her from her family home. When time passed and he didn’t call for his bride, she invited him over to discuss the matter.
He said that he knew the common talk about the house of a widow - but thought nothing of it because of her fine reputation - but when he took his wife to bed she seemed too enthusiastic to be a virgin.
She took him out to the barn and grabbed up a young duckling just hatched and threw it into the water. It swam perfectly well. She told him that nature was strong and that his wife’s appreciation for a young handsome husband was not to be despised.
He took the lesson well and called for his wife to join him in his home.
The lesson? - a young bride with a handsome husband can very well take to sex like a duck to water. ;)