Yep,
I had a heart to heart with my wife of 12 years, who we had been together for 15, and told her exactly how I felt about some things, after biting my tongue for years about them. The response was, the marriage ended that night... Hung on for 3 more years hoping, and for the kids, but effectively, me being honest with her about some things she didn’t want to hear ended the marriage from her side. Wasn’t trying to end the marriage, just put it out there, so it could be dealt with.. Nope.
I was naive enough to think I could tell my life partner anything, good or bad, as you are supposed to be able to, and effectively, by doing that, ended it.
I had a similar experience when an honest answer to “please tell me what is wrong” wasn’t wanted. It didn’t end our marriage, but it “set the parameters” so to speak. She talks, I listen. Based on my experiences I believe most couples eventually hit this wall. Some learn to live with it, and some split. A minority find some way to fall back in love. I have yet to meet any couple who successfully ‘dealt with it’ the way they do on the TV.
I am curious as to what made your list of things for which you were honest with her.