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Strangely enough, I am just about over it now. That was 1993/4 and she has passed away from respiratory complications brought on by her hypochondriac abuse and self medications. My son had to live through it all and I just did everything I could to give him the reassurances I would be there for him when he needed me.
He is a young adult now and we have a good relationship I am happy to say. As for the Judge, I could care less about him. He will have his own demons to face when that time comes along.