Many people, men and women do settle for less from what they originally tried or thought they could get...I was not just saying this happens to women only. I can't tell you how many guys I know who have scoffed at dating a 5/10 women in HS or college but are now engaged or married to them and are very happy.
When I say settle for less I'm not downgrading or belittling 5/10's as not being worthy or the person was lowering themsselves just to get married..what I am trying to say is these guys were 5/10 themselves and thought they could bag a 9/10 women and eventually came to the realization they had to "settle" within their own league. Does that make sense? That is what I mean by "settling"
Just an observation of my own: I've uniformly found those who are obsessed with the physical appearance of potential mates fair poorly in the long run.
I agree 100%.. the relationship should never be based on looks as first priority.
I don’t think you got what I was saying at all. I disputing the whole notion of their being 5’s and 10’s. Or that men and women are rateable on the scale like that.
On Leykis’ scale, I was probably a 2 or 3 when I met my wife. A foot shorter than the average man, balding in my mid 20’s, skinny, scarred, or in short just not a pretty boy. She would have rated much higher, taller than the average man, slender, blonde, blue eyed, toned etc etc. Leykis would say it is impossible, but neither one of us settled, we just met someone that we were really compatible with.
Compatibility doesn’t fit in neatly on a 1-10 scale, but compatibility is the nightmare to find, at least it was for me. It was always much easier to find a very attractive woman to sleep with than to find any woman at all I could actually relate to, or she me.
Many people, men and women do settle for less from what they originally tried or thought they could get...I was not just saying this happens to women only. I can’t tell you how many guys I know who have scoffed at dating a 5/10 women in HS or college but are now engaged or married to them and are very happy.
A “10” with a foul/ugly soul quickly turns into a “-4.” A sweet, kind, good natured “5” quickly turns into an “11.”