Posted on 06/13/2012 4:57:30 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
As many of you know I have been dealing with a lot of health issues recently. I left home for about a month to get inpatient therapy for my knees and shoulders (R.A.). Also dealing with other things (bowels are a huge issue for me now)
I mentioned this to a person whom I thought was a "friend" on Facebook and she called me disgusting and stopped messaging me. I understand it is an unpleasant issue, but it doesnt make someone a gross person ? I also understand that people don't like to hear other people moan and go on and on about their health problems when we all have challenges in our lives of various types. I understand this and im usually a very private person...but I just wish I knew why some people are so offended by such things like bowels ? Is it a matter of maturity ?
i don't know who to trust as far as explaining these problems. and..honest to goodness.. I don't think anyone in my situation could avoid being worried/somewhat obsessed about it. I think thats just the truth...
There is someone I love deeply (a close family member) who has serious health issues. He has developed the equivalent of Crohn’s Disease as a complication of his other issues.
It can be embarrassing when control becomes an issue. The only effective treatment so far has been to ingest tincture of raw opium to calm and (somewhat) control the condition.
I’m telling you this only so that you’ll know I’m serious when I say I am truly empathetic for your situation. Some people may not be, but that’s their problem - not yours.
Here’s a sincere prayer for your return to health, or at least some functionality and more ease in living with your condition.
In Jesus’ Holy Name I ask for God’s Grace to you. May blessings (including *true friends*) abound in your life.
There are lots of people in your circle of friends who are sympathetic to your plight, and will gladly do something to help if they can....but who still do not want to hear a detailed, clinical recitation of your symptoms. Especially if for the third or fourth time.
I have a lot of friends on Facebook, but I feel that FREEPERS are your real FRiends and mine too. We care about each other on here. I wish you the best and prayers for a quick recovery.
How do you know how my friends feel ? I never bring it up out of context..
I am not trying to get you to feel sorry for me.. but im only 26 years old and it is so easy to feel isolated with all these probs. Talking about things does help sometimes...
How do you know how my friends feel ? I never bring it up out of context..
I am not trying to get you to feel sorry for me.. but im only 26 years old and it is so easy to feel isolated with all these probs. Talking about things does help sometimes...
More people are crazy every year. As many university students know, there are even more psych. and soc. folks crazy per capita. Don’t sweat it.
BTW, you should see my bowel issues after a special meal. Huge, I’m tellin’ ya. No problems, though. [Remember, more people crazy. The rising uber-sensitivity game in business and politics is one pathology that pushes out and oozes into view, so to speak.
;-)
You might find that an on-line support group for your disorder is a better place for sharing your bowel troubles than Facebook.
A lot of people just do not have any comprehension of a difficulty that they have not experienced - they can be clueless and unkind, and you are better off seeking support from those who know what it’s like because they’ve been there.
Facebook Friends Rule: If I never looked you in the eye and shook your hand, we are not friends and are not going to be friends. I make an exception for blood relatives - nieces and nephews etc. that I have not yet met.
...and I never talk about my bowels.
People you ‘friend’ on face book are not real friends. They are cyberspace accquaintances.
Friends are people you hang out with through thick and thin in a two way street. If you have one or two good friends, you are way ahead of most people. They are a rare treasure. Everyone else is an accquaintance who you keep at arm’s length. And then there is your family. Keep them close.
I hope you are still getting the support of counseling.
Shouldn’t have told her it was green and peanuty like Jiff.
huh ? that is NOT funny at all
se-ohio: Assuming you’re still married, what does your wife have to say about this female Facebook friend you’re sharing bowel troubles with?
Yes, medical problems can become a central topic for the sufferer. People ask, ya talk about it.
Realize some topics are just too much for some people. Be sensitive and tactful, figure out whether they can take it before dumping squeamish details on them.
Make the discussion fun/interesting. Work at the story as a story. I told my tale of “drive thru heart surgery” 3 times today; getting it down to a short entertaining informative tale has taken some work in the intervening 4 months.
Hey, dude, it’s happened to me. Green poop is serious business.
nothing. she trusts me as far as the internet goes. she has no problem with me having female friends.
again, I want to stress that I only mentioned the personal issue because the lady was asking about my health.
You know the rules. Pitchers!
You’ve got friends here, however tangential.
I’m 44 and should be dead 4 times over already. I might have a clue how you’re feeling.
pooPING!
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