Some of my wife’s friends married men ten or twenty years older than themselves. When they were in their 20s and he was in his 30s or 40s, their husbands were attractive to them and also provided a good income. Once their husbands got older, stinkier, uglier, and especially after they retire... the women get tired of putting up with them fairly quickly. That is the drawback to marrying a younger woman. If you are in this situation you probably need to be extra nice and accommodating and you still might have a problem.
Most women these days really don't care that much whether they have a man around or not, especially if they are employed or have some form of regular income. Men can easily be replaced with a dog, cat, horse, or just the companionship of other women. Women don't care as much as men whether or not they are getting sex either... it just isn't as important to them.
This is a discussion that could go on for hundreds of pages, but it is most valuable as a reminder that if you are approaching this age group that your marriage could be more vulnerable than you think that it is. I know a lot of guys who feel like they were blindsided by divorce. If you want to stay married you have to offer more than a steady income. Sometimes it doesn't matter how much you do... your wife still may decide she doesn't want you when she reaches this age.
I think they do want a man around but it is very difficult to find a decent person at that age. It is very difficult to date at any age let alone in your 50's and 60's. From what I hear the available ones seem to be either in debt, have vices or they find out real quick in the dating life cycle why that person was divorced in the first place i.e personality problems. Not saying everyone who is divorced are like this...some marriages fail due just incompability and not all divorced people are at fault...some spouses, men and women, need divorced.
Men can easily be replaced with a dog, cat, horse, or just the companionship of other women.
But would they rather have a man but are relegated to the 14 cats out of necessity?
Women don't care as much as men whether or not they are getting sex either... it just isn't as important to them
Some. Majority do want passion and intimacy at all ages. The ones who don't want sex are in many cases dysfunctional for various reasons and is probably the reason why they are divorced-sexless marriage. And this goes for men also..it's not just a problem with women not wanting sex. Many women complain their hubbies have lost interest in sex as a reason for divorce. lot of Peg Bundy's out there. The marriage counselor next to my office tells me this all the time...very, very common.