Not at all. What I expect is not to choke on hyperbole about "perfection" from a poster projecting themselves into a clear case of negligence, and trying to mitigate it.
It isn’t hyperbole. Every accident in childrearing to you is negligence. Therefore you expect perfection in childrearing. I do not believe that this case is a CLEAR case of negligence. We do not have all the details. It MAY have been a case of negligence. I would NEVER excuse a clear case of negligence. However, you allow NO room for human error in raising children. That is impossible. I can’t help it if reality doesn’t fit into your thus far mistake free parenting life.
Please answer this, did you and your wife have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, sleep deprivation, nursing, colic etc? Or did you adopt an older child from China? How many children do you have? These are VERY relevant questions. I also noticed that you have a mother in law that lives with you. Does she offer help with your child/children?