Are you sure it’s the alcohol? Wine has stuff in it besides alcohol that does (to some people) what you describe.
What if you have a vodka/soda?
Anything does it, wine, or liquor and beer makes my throat close up AND gives me an immediate headache. In fact the headache thing started out with beer so I figure that wine and liquor will close my throat up too if I keep on giving it a chance. So I don’t ! I have just as much fun as everyone else and I am sought after because I am the designated driver.
I have a friend like that. We think it’s the tannins in wine that she’s allergic/sensitive to.