Sorry you’ve met such lousy girls. In my single days in NYC, all of my girlfriends (including myself) lived in walkups, held down jobs and paid for the apartment rent themselves. There were rental agencies that were solely devoted to putting women together as roommates. We even had rooming houses for women and one famous hotel: The Barbizon.
In my tiny pied a terre in NYC, there are several young women living alone. Not unusual at all.
I’m glad that you have managed such a refined life, I don’t know when your dating youth was, I wonder if wealth and age has something to do with your experience being so incredibly different than life for most people, I wouldn’t even know where to go to find a rooming house for girls or rental agencies solely devoted to female housing, nor do I know what kind of girls you deal with who rent apartments next to your part time New York City residence.
A boy dropping out of high school won’t be moving into his girlfriend’s life and apartment, but a girl dropping out of high school is in high demand.
In my experience, males are more likely to have to support their own apartments than females, the females have an easier time of going from relationship to relationship which includes a roof, that is one reason that any normal looking youngish female has to be very off mentally to be living on the streets.
Without digging deeply, some quick numbers are about half of women have shacked up, and in 1995 a quarter of women age 25-34 were shacking up, and I think 34 was well into the older group where many have been married off.
In my experience I was thinking more of females 18 into their mid to late 20s as being the ones who drift from live in relationship to live in relationship,by the way, my son is a struggling artist in New York, he graduated Cooper Union about 5 years ago.