I hope you are including half the cost of housing, food, insurance, etc. for your children. If a wife charges a husband for taking care of her own kids, he should certainly be able to charge her for half of the cost of housing, feeding, insuring, etc., them.
To be more realistic, you should be do the budget as if you were a single mother who has to pay for everything.
And don’t give me that “on call” nonsense. You should not be paid for sleeping or watching the Oxygen channel or sitting at the hairdresser with your cell phone (which your husband pays for) on in case you happen to get a rare call from the kids’ school.
You probably really work 2 hours a day.
Dang, you sound like you got burned. Hope you find happiness one day....