I grew up in NY and these cities I spent several years in were much more rude than NY:
1) DC absolutely f’n a-holes
2) Chicago- arrogant and snotty
3) Charlotte NC —surprisingly rude and very fake but the rest of NC outside of 485 was very pleasant.
4) St Louis—They have little city complex rivalry with Chicago and thus try to out rude them
5) Boston—racist,thug like and very upfront about it.
Manhattan is very crude but Manhattan is NOT the whole of NYC.
Thug-like... that’s another strange thing about how just strangely evil Boston is. The local high-brow newspaper, the Boston Globe, is viciously anti-Catholic, but still pro-mafia. How can you hate Italians and Irish and love the mafia and the corrupt CINO politicans, like Mumbles Menino and the Winter Hill Gang?
My mayor failed to file paperwork, resulting in the Winter Hill Gang getting property back from the city... and was immediately sent to Congress. The Globe sat on the news story until just after the primary, which serves as the de-facto election.