Well, I’m a woman, and I presume Ladysmith is too, so we aren’t interested in hotness; we’re interested in admiring women who are simply beautiful. Our ideas on hotness wouldn’t have much value, but we do like looking at beauty. To other women, the beautiful woman is a pleasure to look at in the way a work of art or a lovely landscape is a pleasure to look at—not sexually, but simply with admiration and delight. (And sometimes we can pick up ideas for makeup or dress or hairstyle, too.)
You’re right that beauty and hotness, or maybe we should say sexiness, are not the same thing. The women you cite as hot are those who are or were in the business of marketing themselves as sex symbols, so the photos of them that you like are set up to display them in highly sexual ways. The ones Ladysmith and I admire are not actresses who ever traded on their sexuality and never had sexy pictures taken. They were trying to be real actresses, not sex symbols. (Deneuve was regarded as a fine actress and was chosen as the national symbol of female beauty for France.) So you couldn’t judge how sexy they were by photos. By all accounts, though, Grace Kelly was quite the little sexpot before she became a virgin and married Prince Ranier.
LOL! Funny!
You're right about the rest. That particular image of Seymour is like classical art to me.