There are plenty of women who are lazy and shiftless. But I do agree with you. There does seem to be a stronger trend of men who never get a job and grow up, particularly game addicts.
I’m not sure what the diagnosis is; maybe it’s perception bias because most women without self-discipline end up with children and are either forced to grow up or they “fake” respectability through the endless layer of entitlements available to single parents?
One thing I have also noticed is that people (male and female) who were brought up under "less than adequate" circumstances seem to be more willing to roll up their sleeves and get the job done. This is true in my (alpha) stated case. Those brought up in opulence, with mommy and daddy providing all the things they DIDN'T have, are the ones who tend to become the deadbeats. They may have sparkle on the surface, but it's only skin-deep. By the time a potential mate sees to the core, it's too late and they're trapped...