I don’t think you’re paranoid, but with all due respect, I think you’re hovering. If your child is doing honors work, she’s in middle-school or above (you didn’t say).
I think it’s time that you allowed her to take responsibility for her own grades. I’ve had four children; my last is a senior in high school. By the time they reached 7th grade they knew the responsibility lay with them. The only time I ever confronted a teacher was when my obsessive-compulsive daughter brought home a “journalism” project where she had to write her own obituary - a ridiculous concept that she would have had nightmares about for a long time to come.
Until you step back and let your daughter do HER job (school), the teachers will continue to view you as an annoyance, and her grades MIGHT reflect that.
On the other hand, perhaps she simply made some errors on a test? No one can be perfect all the time.
I agree generally with your post, but you’ve got me puzzled about the journalism assignment.
Obits seem a basic and straightforward part of journalism, and giving students the assignment to write their own, a fairly common assignment BTW, seems a chance for them to have some fun, be creative and think about what they’d like their lives to be. Even if it’s not something to your daughter’s taste, that’s pretty common to have to deal with in school, journalism and life.
Perhaps there is something about the OCD angle that I’m not getting?