Miss Thatcher also disclosed that her mother frequently forgot that Sir Denis died in 2003. “I had to keep giving her the bad news over and over again,” she wrote.
I don’t know why the daughter has to keep reminding her. Who cares if she doesn’t know. Tell her he went to the store. Instead she tell her he is dead and she falls apart. I think that is cruel.
That's very true. Unnecessary and as you say, cruel.
My grandmother experienced the same thing.
In her dementia, she kept asking for her daughter, Ardel, who died four years previous. We stopped telling her after the first few times.