[goat granny]

I understand how you feel, one of my son's had a bad divorce and 17 years later she is still trying to get him to court for one thing or another...the oldest son left her home and came to live with his father at 16, she and her new husband use to come to his house and take pictures but he got the house in the divorce. Unusual...yep...she thought she was going to get everything. He also kept his antique wood boat...good lawyer makes a big difference and he also spent lots of time in the law lib. at the court house...A man heading for divorce has to be pro-active and not just let the lawyers do the job....In 2 years child support stops. He fought like a tiger for his kids and even had the parish priest come to the court on his own for one of the proceedings...

He had the kids baptized when he had them and she called the parish priest and demanded he unbaptized them or she would sue the church...A real gem and I don't know how he lasted 17 years with her.....

Just be thankful you don't live in the skin of the psycho's. If the female left the home, in our state you can legally change the locks...Men, do not leave the house if your heading for divorce. When he left, his lawyer told him to reconcile with her and to not leave the house, she left after they got back together and deserted the home, she didn't get it in the divorce...But check out the laws for yourself in your state....The stories I could tell, she even wanted a share of my IRA cause if I died, he would be one of the beneficiary's...I had to go to court, to straighten that out....

It can be a real nightmare and usually the guy gets the shaft if kids are involved....

You have my sympathy, been there, done that......

[bigheadfred]

My son was granted temporary full custody. Tomorrow, unless contested, that becomes full custody. She called whining she didn’t have the money to contest it and it wasn’t fair to her that she had to submit a clean UA before she could see the kids. She said because of that she would never get to see them. They are 1 and 2 with recent b-days. My son told her that it wasn’t about her. It was about the kids. She didn’t get the kids anything for their b-days, but she gets her dope. My son moved back in with us until he can get the problem with his hearing aids resolved. He has trouble hearing the baby at night. But it is ok. My grandkids are great.