Now that’s a VERY good point, doc...see, it is well known that an “interruption” of normal male-bonding (son to father) is a “tell” common to (male) homosexuality, as well as tying in to NPD co-morbidities.
I happened across some old notes I had copied while studying this, and thought I’d paste some here. Sorry I can’t remember the source, it’s been awhile...
As far as I’m concerned, we could spin this thread off into its OWN study, or analysis...for ONE, because it might be helpful in predicting bamalamadingdong’s direction or response (as Graewoulf indicated), and TWO, because so little is really known @ the disorder.
(NB: please take Sam Vanknin’s stuff with a huge barrel of salt! Some of it is good...check out his ‘divorcing a N’ schtick. He’s got the subtle ridicule DOWN! but... He NEEDS to be “supplied” with adulation as the net’s leading expert, and is ON PURPOSE manipulative, lying, misleading, and generally FOS!)
Anyway, here are some of the notes: (some could actually be lifted from sam, haha)
The personality disordered are full of negative emotions, with aggression and its transmutations, hatred and pathological envy. They are constantly seething with rage, jealousy, and other corroding sentiments. Unable to release these emotions (personality disorders are defense mechanisms against “forbidden” feelings) – they split them, project them and force others to behave in a way which legitimizes and rationalizes this overwhelming negativity. “No wonder I hate everyone – look what people repeatedly did to me.” The personality disordered are doomed to incur self-inflicted injuries. They generate the very hate that legitimizes their hatred, which fosters their social ex-communication.”
What is a narcissist? Any time you find yourself living inside that classic New Yorker cartoon in which two people are dining together and one says to the other, “Well, enough about me. Let’s hear what you have to say about me,” your narcissism alert bells should be ringing. A friend of mine explained the credo of the narcissist as follows: “I’m the piece of shit the world revolves around.”
I have a bunch more...but will desist for the tired eyes and minds for now :)
Cheers!
One of the cliche’s I live by is that it’s not a disorder if it gets you through the day. It looks like you’re describing a coping mechanism that gets him through the day, and he functions fairly well.
The problems may come when his coping mechanisms are thwarted.
” - - - As far as I’m concerned, we could spin this thread off into its OWN study, or analysis. - - - “
Put me on your PING list when you start your own thread. I want to learn all I can about this topic. I am amazed that we have such a sorry vetting system for candidates for public office. I’m sure Obama has been like this most of his adult life.
This is scary stuff to me to have a nut-case as President giving speeches to himself as he did recently to the Congressional Black Caucus. I remember Nixon’s meltdown all to well.