“they reconcile their christianity the same way that liars, the greedy, the heterosexual who are promiscuous, those who abort their kids, and those of us who are proud not to belong to this list of sinners do:”
LadyDoc, you are missing the critical issue of repentance.
Those of us who are liars, greedy, etc., can’t go around saying it’s ok with God for us to do that. We must acknowledge it as sin, and resist it. We must repent - repentance is non-negotiable in the Christian life.
To insist that your homosexual behavior is ok is not repentance.
I implied repentance (sorry I didn’t write it clearly).
Many gays try to remain chaste, but “fall from grace” on and off again, just like alcoholics end up drinking again, or those of us with bad tempers lose it again.
But we repent our sins, give our lives again to Jesus, and continue to try to follow him.