[napscoordinator]

She’s about 35. I hate when woman say that they are “single mothers” as if the father doesn’t do ANYTHING. Ryan Phillippe is not dead and I see a ton of pictures with the kids in various magazines and things. It just gets to me about that. I think that if a woman says that it is hard to be a single mother than give the kids to the father immediately. I have never heard of a father saying it is tough to be a single father. It just gets to me.....just the words “single mother”.

[ottbmare]

I think that if a woman says that it is hard to be a single mother than give the kids to the father immediately.

Sometimes the mother has the kids because the father is gone--off with another woman, moved away, abusing alcohol, unemployed, serving overseas, in jail, dead, sick, whatever--so giving them to him isn't an option.

I have never heard of a father saying it is tough to be a single father.

I have. I have friends who are single fathers and they say all the time that it's darn tough. Even when they have family in the area to help. It is tough. It's obviously tougher when you're working and struggling than when you're a rich person who can hire all the staff she needs and has a supportive ex-spouse, like Witherspoon.

It just gets to me.....just the words “single mother”.

What would you prefer that we call ourselves?

[absolootezer0]

I have never heard of a father saying it is tough to be a single father.

i'll say it. it's tough being a single father.
we're burdened with child support that mostly gets used to finance the lifestyle of the mother, not actually "support" the child, then we're left with significantly less money to spend on our children, so we look like the bad guy.
not to mention that we get significantly less time with our children.