Well said. It took me years to understand what ‘submissive’ meant. Although we did not have a Christian marriage until the past few years, we instinctively knew that we each had roles and that the marriage was bigger then the both of us. We’ll have 31 years in December.
I think what a lot of people don’t get is - “roles” are more about ‘being’ rather than ‘doing’. Men and women are different. And thank God for that!!! Women need love, men need respect. That’s how we’re wired. It’s really amazing how God made it work. Women are to respect the men - something that’s not real natural to our natures. Men are to love their wives - something not natural to theirs. Yet, when practiced, it works in great harmony.
We got to spend some time with our son-in-law this weekend and he was talking about how our daughter recognizes him as the head of the household and that it is both honoring and a burden at the same time. He takes being a husband very seriously. We are so pleased that they understand the basics of marriage. We think they’ll do fine......now if they’ll just give us GRANDKIDS!!! (no pressure, kids)
I always tell my husband I don't have to put him first before myself because we are one - anything I do for him I am spiritually doing for myself as well.
Congrats on your long marriage - we are soon to celebrate #27 ourselves!