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The problem you bring up has more to do with marrying an unbeliever, being unequally yoked.

I hope you're not suggesting that such a case would be an exception to the command to submit to one's husband. That a woman who is "unequally yoked" to an unbelieving husband is exempt from the command to submit to him.

(I'm not talking about the case where he might order her "to do things that are ungodly or criminal", as you said. The answer to that case is clear.)

The original article makes it sound like a wife's submission to her husband's authority is an easy thing, when I'm sure it's quite difficult in many cases. Paul likens the relationship of a wife to her husband with that of the church to Christ. Christians submit to Christ not because He doesn't ask much of us, but because He has authority over us. Not because "I can count on one hand the number of times (Christ) said no", but because His "no" is the final decision. Not because we get our way 99% of the time, but because His way trumps ours 100% of the time. Anything less is not submission.

I am happy to hear that the original author's husband is easy to submit to. After all He did for us, Jesus is often easy to submit to as well - as is a husband who imitates Him. But submission to the authority of another is determined not just when it's easy, but when it's hard as well.

This is why I object to the author painting it as "I get to do what I want 99% of the time". I imagine most women live in far different circumstances. For them, submitting to their husbands is more difficult - but just as right, honorable, and laudable.

“I hope you’re not suggesting that such a case would be an exception to the command to submit to one’s husband. That a woman who is “unequally yoked” to an unbelieving husband is exempt from the command to submit to him. “
Submission in marriage, a biblical precept, means that the woman recognizes headship in the family unit. The husband is the head of the household and the spiritual leader. The wife is his helpmate who stands equally before God with him. The most expressive example of this in practice today is to be seen among the Plain people like Old Order Mennonites and Amish. The women are hardly wimpy, begging things. I have never seen a family act in concert as I have seen among these people. Their headcoverings are a visible display of their belief that women are not the leaders of the household and that they defer to their husbands.But the role of the female is considered equally important to the family and recognized as such. What I was trying to say in my earlier post, is that when Christian women marry unbelieving men (something they are warned not to do) then the whole family hierarchy goes out the window. A woman is to submit to her husband and he is to love her as Christ loves his church. Yes it is hard to submit, but if your husband is a loving man, it certainly makes it much easier. Most young people, however, have little understanding of this biblical concept; the men do not want to take responsibility and the women do not like the word “submission.” We live in an apostate world.