How old are you?
Cause let me tell you, parents were much better behaved when I was a kid. Because there was such a thing as shame. People had it.
Now, if someone told a person that his/her kids was misbehaving, that person would feel “disrespected” and go off on you.
Your own parents and grandparents are not everywhere in the country and maybe in their world, parents and kids haven’t changed, but they sure have in mine.
As a Boomer—1946 vintage; the REAL “boom year”—I resent the characterization as “selfish”; “me, me, me...”. My parents made sure it was about ADULTS; not mme.
What it now boils down to is simply wanting what I pay for:
I pay for a cheap, fast belly full of ballast at McD’s or DQ, and all that goes with it is accepted and fully tolerated;
at a ‘family restaurant’, or even moderately nice place I’m paying for the, decent service, and clean utensils, and what goes with that is again tolerable and accepted;
when I take the trouble to break out the dinner clothes, and go to a good restaurant, I’m paying primarily for ambiance, and I darn well better get that; the food and service also has to be acceptable, but it is the intangables that are being paid for in that case and I want and deserve them.