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To: spetznaz

Thank you for your kind reply.


190 posted on 07/13/2011 10:01:22 PM PDT by cradle of freedom (Long live the Republic !)
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To: cradle of freedom
Most welcome, and all the best sir/maam. By the way, an important component (probably the most important) is to ensure that your child develops and maintains situational awareness. You'd be surprised how many bad situations can simply be avoided ...e.g. not being in certain places at certain times, when she is older and goes out not to trust a guy just because he has a nice smile and wants to take her alone for a drive-in, knowledge of how many date rapes are acquantaince rapes, being cognizant of never leaving your drink unattended, always having the number of a cab driver you know, not going out alone to a strange party without at least two trusted friends, etc etc. One can avoid 95% of bad situations simply by not getting into them(I've made up the figure but I wouldn't be surprised if it was the case).

Then the next step is to have a confident demeanor ...most perps (like most natural predators) prefer to prey on the weak and hapless. Given a choice between attacking a (say) 16 yr old who seems to have her wits about, is walking in a confident manner, and seems aware of her surroundings; or attacking another 16 yr old across the street who seems slightly intoxicated, is walking about looking like she's scared the sky will fall on her, and has her ears blocked by her iPod earbuds ....the VAST majority of perps will attack the latter person. A lot of victims 'advertise' themselves as such. It is like a lot of kids who get bullied ...many of them are (virtually) carrying about an invisible sign saying 'bully me' by the way they walk, how they appear vulnerable, etc. Most bullies will not pick on someone who appears confident, and in the same way most perps would rather pick on someone who seems willing to play the role of a victim rather than someone who seems to be confident.

Third point comes the techniques ....because even if you are situationally aware, and even though you exude confidence, sometimes trouble will still come for you. Maybe an ex-boyfriend who is not particularly happy that your daughter doesn't want to date losers. That is where the technique comes in ...something that has a chance of giving the user a real chance of survival. For instance if someone is trying to force you inside a car ...most people who get in do not survive (actually it is better to even run away than get in the car, even if the person has a gun ....he may decide not to shoot, or he may shoot and miss, or he may shoot and hit a non-vital part ...however, if you get inside the car, you are most probably dead). Now, if someone is trying to force her inside a car, she may not have mace/pepper spray (and mace doesn't work as well as fingers jabbed in the eyes ...you can deal with the legal problems later, but the situation would need to be dealt with immediately), and she may not have a gun (and even if she has it she may not access it) ....however a hard jab at the throat may give her the vital seconds needed to run away and draw attention. It gives a chance, which in such a situation is worth gold. Anyways, the first thing is always having situational awareness (too many people simply just move about without even knowing who is next to them, leaving their drinks around, going to strange places with stranger people, walking down dark streets listening to blaring music on their earphones, etc etc). The next is confidence ...a coyote would rather go for the sickly looking puppy rather than the dog with the glossy coat and confident demeanor. Same applies to perps - it is better to attack the Steve Urkell nerd lookalike rather than the person who seems to have a purpose in what she is doing. Finally, the techniques are simply to have some sort of a response in case the first two do not work, and in most cases you will never have to use your technique.

BTW if you want to do some light reading check out a very nice book called 'The Gift of Fear.' Most people simply ignore the warning signs until it is too late. The same author of The Gift of Fear wrote another book where he studied high profile assassinations, and even there realized a couple of seconds before the attack there was a good level of signalling. Open eyes, in many cases, will avoid closed fists (hmmmm ....actually that sounds nice hahahahaha). Have a blessed day.

191 posted on 07/13/2011 11:16:43 PM PDT by spetznaz (Nuclear-tipped Ballistic Missiles: The Ultimate Phallic Symbol)
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