I’d probably feel like you do but while reading this I’m thinking they probably still took your dog because it was an important, personal reason for you all to go to NJ and they probably didn’t want to let you down. Especially last minute. For whatever their reason is for wherever they went.
Should they have called and asked your permission? Yes. But they didn’t.
Try and contain yourself till Zoe comes home. You have to walk a fine line at this point or you, and your daughter, will lose them as people you trusted enough to take your dog.
My wife and I had two dogs for years. A lot of places we just didn’t go when they got older and a kennel was no longer an option. When they ended-up dying within a year of each other (13 and 14yo) we decided NO MORE DOGS!! Well, no more pets in general, so we could start doing things without worrying about who and where we would put our dogs if we wanted to go somewhere.
That was 5 years and 4 dogs ago. I guess someone was trying to tell me that having dogs around the house for 50 weeks a year is better for us than going somewhere without them for two :)
I hear you.
They may have felt there was no need to call because they had already told them before getting the dog that they were going out of town and taking the dog with them.