We have a momma deer and her baby sleep in the backyard (under the pine trees) each night. Living in a crowded suburb, I actually get a kick out of it. Our neighbors are pretty strange about the entire thing. Every plant has netting over it. EVERY PLANT. At some point, I think you just have to relax a bit but that’s me.
YIKES -— your neighbors sound a bit uptight alright. I live out in the country and I don’t bother with netting anything but my one fruit tree -— but that’s because of bugs and birds, not deer.