I can agree with virtually everything you’re written with just one quibble: “And the history is written by the winners.” Usually when I see it offered (or shouted) it is offered hand in hand with the “might~makes~right” strawman.
Can you honestly think of any other conflict in which the “loser” was able to contribute to the narrative as much as the American Civil War? Take these FreeRepublic threads as an example - we debate them continuously (usually without resolution of anything but a boost to our egos ;-) - and except for the occasional “you lost, get over it” they go on unmolested. They aren’t quelled unless the participants get unruly.
I may not extend the commendation to the leadership, but I agree absolutely that they were men of honor - on both sides.
Have a pleasant Easter
Which most of you revisionist/yankee mythologists find quite unsettling....
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