I don’t disagree with that; in fact, one of the most hardcore secessionists, Robert Toombs, tried to convince Davis that firing upon Ft. Sumter was foolish and fatal. I’m just pointing out that an effort was indeed made beforehand to resolve the matter peacefully.
I never understood it....a good chunk of the generals on both sides fought shoulder to shoulder in the Mexican War.
I do believe the south had a larger number of these general officers who fought Santa Anna...and that included the commander in Chief, Jefferson Davis.
This could have been handled better...IMHO.