The Bible says something very different, and I think I'll go with it says over some author who thinks they have the answers.
Hate will consume you. I have a very abusive, violent, drug addicted, psychiatrically interesting parent. I have no hate, though. It's hard to rise above hate, but it's what we're supposed to do. It's what we're commanded to do. It isn't a suggestion.
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins
You don't have to hate the person to avoid them or their toxic behavior.
Forgiveness is for the victim as much as it is for the aggressor.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times
Life isn't fair or easy. You don't have the right to hate just because someone did wrong by you.
I should have been more specific, anger. All I know is that I want to be sure that I’m ready to forgive on my terms and do it because I sincerely mean it.