Well, they are 9 and 7 now, and they have lots of adopted friends. How it plays when they get older remains to be seen.
But they are very well adjusted now, we make a big deal out of chinese events, etc (and yes, they LOVE rice), we’ve told them what we do know about their birth information while leaving out the harsher facts for now. We can’t lie because it’s in their official documentation from China but we’ll cross that bridge when they are older.
They know they were wanted, they know we asked God for them and prayed for them even before we knew them, and they know they are loved. I think they’ll be fine.
From your description, I have no doubt they will have the best of opportunity in life.
You admit that you didn’t just lay out the entire truth to them at five years old, but are controlling it and giving them what they need, or what they can handle.
Going back to the article and my original statement that provoked some responses, compared to the benefits of being adopted into loving families that just couldn’t make the government cut, how important is the loss of their bio-parent info?
The whole point of gathering this ‘group’ is to use their group mindset to try and ‘fix’ something that happened a long time ago and cannot be fixed. Those who offer the ‘fix’ do so only to make some money.
I see that as a waste, and an added emotional burden for these ‘Cole babies’.