“``We have no official record of their adoptions — like they never happened — which makes it nearly impossible to help these folks find their birth parents.’’”
Dear Cole babies: If you are happy with what you are now, why try and find a way to change that? What if the info you seek unsettles you?
I have a friend who was adopted. She was an only child and both of her adoptive parents had passed away. She managed to find her birth family, and altho her birth mother also was dead, she now has half brothers and sisters and cousins all of whom never knew she existed. It turned out wonderful for her (it could have turned out badly tho).
I don’t think any of us can judge this stuff if we aren’t in the situation. I don’t know what it would feel like to wake up one day and discover that the people I thought were my parents weren’t. I can’t imagine I would love them less but I suspect I would have a great deal of curiosity about the people who WERE. I simply don’t think those who are not in that position can tell those who are how they should feel.