Way back when the kids were smaller we were talking at the dinner table about swearing and he said “Well, I’ve heard Dad swear”. I said “Well, I doubt it - but maybe you have.” (I was thinking maybe saying something under my breath when I break something, etc.)
He said “No - just yesterday I heard you! You said the ‘S-word’”
“Oh, now I don’t know about that!”
“Yes - when you were getting mad at the dog!!”
It was then that I realized that the “s-word” was “stupid”!
The kids still get called on that. And the other “s-word” as well. (Shut-up).
Try playing video games or shooting a game of pool - it's way too easy to let out a tirade of nasty words. I'm trying hard to use my eyes rather than my mouth to communicate anger. So far it's working well - although family is now saying I'm giving them the evil eye.
I never heard my mother us profanity. My father had one profane thing that he said when he was truly upset. It was a profanity rather than a vulgarity. Nothing else, but it was a doozy, a real triple threat.