Having already tried to respond to other posts, please forgive me if I only reply to one issue you so accurately raised.
“not being able to tell your wife that she was your first and last?”
Since the original issue was about the “damage” done to the boy, and since my request for quantifiable data regarding said damage seem to have irritated some with tender points on this subject, I must admit I didn’t address the male virginity at marriage” issue.
Alas, I am too little of an optimist to expect sufficient males to qualify for such a set to find it worth detailed discussion.
I agree that such should be the case, but harsh reality tells me that such males will be an exceeding small set.
Alas, males are ready and willing to fornicate long before their brain structure matures to the point where many of the issues you raise even become part of their ‘weltanschaung’.
Perhaps that is why society didn’t allow them to marry until they could support a wife?
Now, we live in a warped world where goobers in a swarm of gooberment offices are supporting a burgeoning population of sluts producing an ever increasing population of bastards, whose behavior turns out, not surprisingly to be “bastardly”.
All is progressing as Antonio Gramsci wanted.
To which I can only say “BAH! Humbuggery!
That and weep a bit for the Republic.s present state.